Relationship Rehab Episode 5 - The Rebuilt Heart

You made it, sis — welcome to The Rebuilt Heart, the final episode of the Relationship Rehab series with Sherry. 💗

This week, we’re not patching pain — we’re rebuilding purpose.
In this heartfelt finale, Sherry walks you through how to rebuild your relationship with God and yourself — because when your foundation is right, every other relationship begins to flourish.

In this episode, you’ll discover:
 🛠️ How to lay down old blueprints of hurt and rebuild with faith, truth, and grace
 💧 Why it’s okay to cry — your tears are part of the cement that seals your healing
 🌸 How to create a He Is Faithful Board (and make it a girls’ night project!) to track your prayers and God’s answers
🔥 How to declare your War Cry of Healing and walk into a new season with confidence and clarity
🎁 Why sharing your healing story might be the greatest holiday gift you could ever give

This isn’t the end — it’s the beginning of a brand-new build.
 Because healed hearts build healthy lives, and healthy lives change generations. 🌿

Chapters

• 0:00 Checking Out Of Rehab
• 3:35 Building With A New Blueprint
• 9:50 Tests, Triggers, And New Tools
• 16:52 The Worksite Where Habits Change
• 24:32 Signs You’ve Outgrown The Old

Transcript

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Welcome to It's a Single Mom Thing, the show for single moms by single moms. This is Sherry, your host, and I am happy you are here today. Remember, it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you. Alright, ladies, take a deep breath. We've made it! Welcome to the final session of Relationship Rehab, The Rebuild Heart. I told you from the start, rehab wasn't about staying comfortable, did I not? It's about getting clean. And now look at you. Cleaner, clearer, stronger, and even softer. But before we pop the confetti, I've got to tell you, this is the part of rehab that no one really likes to talk about. It's that moment when the doctor says, You're ready to check out. And suddenly there's both excitement and fear. Because healing doesn't end when you walk out those doors, it begins there. This is the moment you take everything you've learned, every boundary, every truth, every tear, every prayer, and you start applying it in the real world. So if you're feeling that mix of joy and jitters, girl, you're not alone. That's what a rebuilt heart feels like. Beating in rhythm with heaven, but learning how to live again here on earth. And let's be real. Some of y'all are graduating from this rehab, like, okay, God, I am ready to love again. And then some of you are like, uh no, I am good right here. Lord, just me and you for a minute. And both are okay. Because this last step isn't about rushing into a relationship, it's about rebuilding the one within. So when your relationship with God is right, your relationship with yourself starts to heal. And when that alignment happens, everything around you begins to shift. How you love, how you see, how you speak, how you show up. So this episode is about learning to live from that new heart, to use new tools, new materials, and even a new blueprint. No longer building out of brokenness, but rather out of belief. We're talking about moving past old hurts, habits, and hangups. No more remodeling toxic relationships with fresh paint. Oh no. This is some new construction, baby, because new foundation, new frame, and a new future is where it is at. And I'll be honest, mark my words. When you start living from a healed heart, you will face some tests. Old habits will try to creep back in. Old numbers might resurface. And the enemy, oh yeah, he will absolutely try to see if you've really changed. But this time, ladies, you're equipped. You've got new tools, new truth, and a new sense of you. And when that old thing comes knocking, you're not answering that door with desperation. Oh no, you are standing there with discernment. Because this isn't about perfection. Listen, it's about progress. And let that really just sink in for a second. It's not about perfection, it's about progress. And what does that mean? It's about celebrating how far you've come. Because, girl, you have come far. And then it's about believing that the best is still being built. You may not see it yet, but you speak it as if it's already here. So, ladies, grab your coffee, your journal, and maybe even a hard hat. Because listen, today we are walking into the final session of relationship rehab, and we are laying the foundation for your next season. Welcome to episode five of It's a Single Mom Thing series on Relationship Rehab, the Rebuilt Heart. So let's build it together. The blueprint for the rebuilt heart. You know, before any builder picks up a hammer, they've got to look at what? The blueprint, the plan, the design, the vision of what's about to rise up from the ground up. And if you've been walking through this relationship rehab journey, girl, you know we've been doing some serious demolition. Walls have come down, roots got pulled up, soil got turned over. But now, sis, we're not demoing anymore. Oh no, we are designing. That's right. No more broken and dirty fingernails. You can go out and get that manny petty. We're taking the blueprint God's been drawing over your life, and we're saying, Okay, Lord, let's build something new. Show me what you see. Move that bus. And here's what the word says about that. In Ezekiel 36, 26, it says, I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you. In Psalms 51, 10, it says, Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me. And Romans 12.2 says, Be transformed by the renewing of your mind. That right there, ladies, that's your blueprint. You see, you can't build a new life with old materials. You can't use guilt for glue. You can't use shame for structure, and you can't use old words to build a new world. This time, ladies, we're building with truth, grace, and boundaries. We're using forgiveness as the foundation and faith as the frame. And maybe just maybe this part hits you hard, but hear me out. You can't keep patching pain with people. You can't keep remodeling memories that were never meant to be home again. Because listen, God's not asking you to redecorate your past. So what does that mean? Well, this means we've got to clear out some of that leftover construction junk, right? You know, the old habits, the toxic thoughts, the hangups that keep showing up on the job site. You know what I'm talking about. The text that comes in, hey, remember me? And then you reply, because you've deleted that phone number from your phone. Who is you? See, sis, you are under new management now. And that means when that old thing or person shows up to test your progress, you've got to protect the project and do a hard pass on that person. And listen, let's be honest with ourselves. It may just be that hard. But you need to remember you have been doing the hard work. If that old person is showing up, it's because you've been showing up on the work site, girl. So I have a little hard hat moment for you then. When that test comes, pause and pray before you reply. Phone a sister, not your ex. Put on a positive podcast or motivating music. Then redirect your energy into your growth. Because the moment you do, let me tell you what, something happens. You are proving to heaven and hell that your healing is real. And if you need a little snapback reminder when that temptation hits, you need to say this out loud with a little attitude and a finger snap. Not today, old me, I am on a new build. So go ahead and try it. Snap your fingers. Not today, old me, I am on a new build. Now listen, I know it's funny, but it's also a faith statement. Because listen, every time you say it out loud, you are reminding yourself and you are also putting hell on notice. Oh no, I have come too far to go back to rubble. So the next time that your number lights up your phone at night, that habit that whispers your name or that loneliness that starts to linger, and it will, you know exactly what to say. Not today, old me. I'm on a new build. Now, I know it's not easy, and that's why this is called rehab. Change never is. But listen, every time you say no to the old, you're saying yes to the new. Don't listen to the good opinions of others who might tell you otherwise. Because listen, you are breaking generational habits, old soul ties, and self-sabotage cycles that used to have your name on them, but baby, not anymore. So today, as you're drafting your blueprint, I want you to ask yourself these three things. Number one, what do I want to see built in my heart this season? Two, what old materials do I need to leave behind? And three, what new tools do I need to pick up? Because you see, if God's the architect and you're willing to follow his plan, girl, there is no limit to what he can build in and through you. And again, your rebuild isn't about perfection, it's about progress. It's not about going back to who you were. Oh no, it is about growing into who you were always meant to be. So let me ask you, would now be a good time for her to come forward? So grab your plans, your prayers, and your patience because we're about to step onto the work site of your heart. And let me tell you, girl, it's already looking beautiful. The worksite. So hopefully you've got your hard hat and a little hope because it's time to get to work. We've got some business to take care of. So we've talked about the blueprint. So now we are stepping onto the work site where faith meets the follow-through. Cause let's be real, the rebuild looks cute on paper with all its crown molding and finishes until you are knee-deep in drywall dust, tired, and tempted to quit, feeling like you hit a wall. But ladies, this place, this is where transformation takes root. Not in the pretty part, but in the process. This is where you learn to show up even when it's slow. Even when it's silent, even when it feels like nothing's changing. Because God isn't just rebuilding your heart. Oh no, listen, listen. He is retraining your habits. He is teaching you how to respond differently when the same test shows up. He's building your endurance, your patience, and even your peace. You see, on the work side of your heart, every hammer hit matters. Every no to the old you is a yes to the new you. Every tear is watering what you planted in faith last season. And I know, listen, I get this. Some days it feels like the debris will never clear. You're not alone. You're doing the work, you're praying, you're healing, and you still don't see the walls going up yet. I get it. But listen, ladies, remember this. Before you see a house, there's a whole lot of hidden work underground. God is not ignoring you. On the contrary, he's anchoring you. Let that sit with you for a bit. So why is that important? Well, here's why. Because a shallow foundation can't hold the strong future. So if this season feels hard, heavy, or hidden, don't despise it. It's divine construction. And this is where the emotional muscle comes in. That part where you stand in the hard when everything in you wants to take a knee. This is where you look around and say, Okay, Lord, I may not see the finished project, but I trust the process. And when you need a little sassy reminder to keep you moving forward, you know what to do, right? Okay, we're gonna do it again. You're gonna snap and say, Not today, old me, I am on a new build. Because this isn't just about repairing walls, ladies. It's about rebuilding worth, it's about becoming the woman who can handle the harvest she's been planting and praying for. And as you keep building, here's something to remember. You are not doing this alone. The Holy Spirit is your project manager, guiding, instructing, and inspecting every step. He's the one who whispers, take a break, but don't quit. That wall, it's not strong enough yet. Reinforce it with a little faith. That door, oh no no, it doesn't open anymore because you've outgrown what's behind it. Ansys, take it from me. It's okay to cry when you need to. Those tears, they're not a setback. They're a part of the cement. They help seal what he's strengthening in you. Sometimes I've found the tears are how you let go of what used to hold you back. So the new can finally take shape. So don't hold them in and don't apologize for them. Even Jesus wept. And he was building something eternal. Your tears are not proof of weakness, they're evidence of healing. So let him lead the project, let him determine the timeline and trust that when he says it's finished, it will be beautifully finished. And maybe right now you're noticing something different, even just the smallest little bit of change. You're not craving the old distractions anymore. That dating app doesn't look so appealing. That exastext doesn't make your heart skip. It makes you scroll right on by. Delete. Because you see, you've outgrown the fix. You're learning to live fulfilled. That's what a rebuilt heart feels like. Strong, steady, and satisfied in him. So before we move into our final section today, I want you to ask yourself, what has God built in me that I didn't have before? What old thing have I stopped reaching for because I've outgrown it? And what do I need to put in place to protect my peace going forward? Because this work doesn't end, my friend, when you check out a rehab. It continues every day you choose to show up and build. And says, listen, I promise you, what God is building in you, it is worth every prayer, every tear, every hammer hit. Because this isn't just about the rebuild, it's about the reveal. And that's where we're headed next. So before we go into that, I want to give you something practical that I use. And it's a little heart homework, okay? And it's called It's a He is Faithful Board. Now, before you go thinking that this is another Pinterest project, chillax, okay? Hold up, slow your roll. This isn't about pretty handwriting or perfect colors. You should know me. That's not my jam. It's about proof. Proof of God's promises showing up in your life. So here's what you need to do. Get yourself a board, whether it's a kirk uh listen to me, a cork board, a whiteboard, or even a poster board. And write down your prayers daily. Maybe you post one a day. The things that you're surrendering, the desires of your heart, the situations you're trusting God with. And then I want you to date it and pin it on there. Then when he answers, I want you to flip that prayer card over. And on the back, I want you to write how he came through and when. That way, every time you walk by that board, you're not staring at problems, you're staring at proof. Because in this season, you don't just need to believe he's faithful, you need to see it. You need visual reminders that God's been in every blueprint, every brick, every battle, and every breakthrough. And here's my favorite part: don't do it alone. Make it a girls' night project. Invite your sisters over, your Bible study crew, or even your prayer partners over. Throw on some worship music, grab your journals, brew a pot of coffee, or pour the sparkling grape juice and make it a night of surrender and celebration. Because nothing builds faith faster than seeing what God's doing, not just in your life, but in theirs too. And when you've got a moment, I want you to post a picture of your board or one answer prayer in our It's a Single Mom thing Facebook group. Let's start filling that space with stories of his faithfulness because listen, your testimony just might be the encouragement another sister needs to stay on her build site. Because that's what this rebuild is really about. Not just what's being restored in you, but what God's going to do through you. The reveal. Whoo, girl, take a break. A break and take a breath. Can you feel it? That peace that you're sitting in right now. That's the sound of a rebuilt heart. You've done the work, you've faced the mess, and you've dug through the dirt, fought through the silence, and kept showing up when it would have been easier to quit. And now you can finally step back and see what God's been building in you all along. This, my sweet sister, is the reveal. You might not even recognize the woman standing here today, the way she prays now, the way she guards her peace, the way she walks into rooms no longer needing to be chosen, because she already knows she's called. When you started the series, listen, your heart might have felt cracked, tired, or just plain over it. But now look at you. Stronger, softer, and more secure in who God says you are. And you know what's beautiful about rebuilds? They do not erase the cracks, they redeem them. Those lines in your story, they're not flaws, they are fingerprints. Proof that God's grace got you through. This is what it looks like when you stop surviving and start thriving. When your confidence isn't in who left, but in who stayed. When you stop chasing closure and start walking in completion, and maybe, just maybe for the first time in a long time, you're seeing the world and yourself with fresh eyes. The color looks brighter, the air feels lighter, you've got vision again, hope again, heart again. And no, it doesn't mean everything's perfect now. It just means you're finally free to build with peace instead of pain. That's what happens when the foundation of your life is Jesus. You're not building on sand anymore, you're building on solid rock. And baby, when the next storm comes, and it will, you won't crumble. You'll stand. Because this time your walls aren't made of fear. They're framed with faith. This time, oh no, your heart isn't cracked by chaos. It's covered in confidence. This time, you are not questioning if you're enough. You're thanking God that you are chosen. So wherever you are listening from, maybe you're driving home, maybe you're folding laundry, maybe you're crying in your car. Just know this rebuild isn't random. It's redemption. You are living proof that God doesn't waste what's broken. He rebuilds it better than before. And now listen, I know you still might be holding your breath a little. That's okay. Healing can still feel new. But take it from me. When you breathe again, breathe from your belly, breathe from your faith, breathe from the truth that you are whole. Because listen, you didn't just rehab a relationship, you reclaimed your worth. You didn't just clean up your heart, you cleared space for purpose. You didn't just let go, you let God in. And now it's time to celebrate that. So before we close with something a little different that I've got planned, which I'm calling as our war cry of healing, I want you to take one moment, right here, right now, to thank God for one thing he's rebuilt in you. That's it. That's your worship. That's your reveal. The war cry of healing. All right, ladies. So here we are. We are at the end of the relationship rehab. And wow, what a journey it has been. We have some learned some things together, have we not? You've done the hard work, you faced the hard truth, you peeled back layers and planted seeds. And now you're standing there with a heart that's not just healed, it's holy. And I want you to know that this is not the end, but rather this is the beginning of your next chapter. Because listen, healed hearts build healthy lives, and healthy lives change generations. So as we close this season, this episode of Relationship Rehab, I want to give you one last gift. A moment that seals everything God's done here, and something that you can share with another sister who needs it too. This holiday season, don't just give presents, give presence. Share this relationship rehab series with one woman you love. Maybe it's your sister, your sister-in-law, your best friend, your daughter, your coworker. Someone who needs a reminder that God still rebuilds hearts. Because maybe your act of sharing, this isn't just a gift, it's a lifeline. And who knows? Her rebuild might start because you had the courage to pass yours on. So now let's close this chapter with what I'm calling is a war cry of healing. Now, if you are driving your car and you're out of light, some people are gonna be looking at you like you're a little crazy, but I want you to go with this and say it with me out loud if you can. This is gonna be your declaration, your victory statement, your it is finished moment. You ready? Okay, repeat with me. I've walked through the wreckage and I've watched God rebuild. My heart is not broken, it's better. My faith is not fragile, it's forged. My story is not over, it's unfolding. I'm not waiting to be loved. I am loved. I'm not looking for peace, I carry peace. I'm not chasing what left, I am embracing what's next. My heart is rebuilt, my walls are fortified with faith. My boundaries are blessed, I'm healed, I'm whole, I'm his. And I will keep building from the inside out. Now let's seal it with a little prayer. Father God, thank you for every moment listening, for the one who came and hurting, doubting, or searching, and for the one leaving, restored, renewed, and ready. Lord God, thank you for the soil you've turned, the walls you've roots you've strengthened. We surrender every plan, every tree, out. Be the master. Help us walk in truth, grace, and love from over. For the sister who's still in the hard part, Lord, remind her she's not behind. She's becoming. For the one standing in the rubble, show her that you rebuild better. And Lord, for all of us, God, give us courage to keep growing, keep showing up, and keep shining your light. Father God, we thank you for this season of healing and we trust you for the next. In Jesus' name we pray. Amen. And that's it. Relationship rehab. What a ride. You know, every time I finish a season, God reminds me the story's not over. So I don't know what he's got planned next, but I can promise you this, it's gonna be good. So stay tuned, keep your heart open, your faith steady, and your spirit expectant. Because God's not done building, and girl, neither are we. Until next time, I'm Sherry and it's been a relationship rehab. Let's keep rebuilding one heart at a time. Have a wonderful week, and remember, it's a single mom thing, and not a single thing that stops you. Thanks for listening to It's a Single Mom Thing. I hope you enjoyed our time together. If you have more questions on how to have a relationship with Jesus or need prayer, visit us at www.shepardsvillage.com backslash prayer. For more information and resources, check out our show notes.