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It's A Single Mom Thing
Welcome to “It's A Single Mom Thing,” the show for single moms by single moms, hosted by Sherry Chandler.
Being a solo momma and present parent is hard work, and losing focus is easy when you forget your faith. The good news is you are not alone. You were singled out this season, and together, we can work on what’s not working for you—finding Christ in the crisis! Whether you’re tuning in early in the morning or late at night, I’m here for you, momma.
This podcast is your go-to space for navigating life as a single mom with faith, fun, and a fresh perspective. We'll cover everything from mastering a single-mom success mindset and budgeting like a boss to prioritizing self-care and raising resilient kids. We’ll share time management hacks, parenting perspectives, co-parenting challenges, and how to find joy and laugh again. Together, we’ll move from surviving to thriving in every season of single motherhood.
Be encouraged. Get inspired. You can do this, momma.
Each Monday, join me for practical advice, relatable stories, and uplifting conversations as we walk this journey from solo momma to solo momma. I promise not to take too much of your time, and I’m so grateful you’re spending it with me.
It may be a single mom thing, but it doesn’t have to be the "single thing" that stops you!
It's A Single Mom Thing
Rooted to Rise – When God Transplants You
Ever feel like everything around you is shifting—and you don’t know why? Relationships change. Routines unravel. Your once-solid footing suddenly feels shaky. But what if you’re not falling apart… what if you’re being repotted?
In this deeply personal and Spirit-led episode, Sherry invites you into a powerful conversation about what it looks like when God begins to gently loosen your roots—not to break you, but to grow you. Through the lens of her own current season of transition, she shares what it means to trust the Master Gardener as He prunes, separates, and prepares us for more.
This episode is for the single mom who’s been pouring into everyone else’s garden, wondering if God sees hers.
Spoiler alert: He does.
💬 Real talk.
🪴 Root work.
💔 Healing.
🌺 Growth.
Tune in and be reminded: you’re not being left behind—you’re being moved forward.
📞 Need someone to pray with you? Call our 24-hour prayer line at 855-822-PRAY. You don’t have to go through this season alone.
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It's a Single Mom Thing, Not the Single Thing That Stops You!
Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing, the show for single moms by single moms. This is Sherri, your host, and I am happy you are here today. Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you.
Speaker 2:Well, hello there my women of worth. So have you been feeling a little unsettled lately, like life is shifting in ways you don't quite understand Relationships changing, routines disrupted, or passions that once fueled you now feel a little different. If that's you, I want you to lean in today, because I have learned something about these kinds of seasons. Oh yes, it doesn't always mean something's wrong. Sometimes it means God is working, and here's the picture he gave me when a plant outgrows the pot it was planted in, a good gardener doesn't ignore it. He gently loosens the roots, not to harm it but to help it grow. God does that with us too. So if you're feeling a little disconnected from places and people you once clung to, or if your heart feels tangled in transition, or even if peace feels a little root bound, maybe it's because you're being repotted. So today we are digging into what it looks like when God begins separating you, not to isolate you, but to prepare you. And listen, my friends, I get it. I've been in and I am in this very season right now myself. At first I was anxious, even angry, I mean, my life had already been full of change. But God wasn't done working. This time he was working on me. I still don't have all the answers, but I have started to see the bigger picture, and today I want to help you see yours, so let's talk about it.
Speaker 2:Welcome to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing. What's going on underground? The work you don't see. Let's be honest, ladies Some of the most powerful work God does in our lives doesn't look like or feel like progress at all. In fact, it can look like and feel like frustration. It can feel like things are falling apart.
Speaker 2:But just beneath the surface, underground, god's doing something. He is tending to your root system. He's strengthening what nobody sees, not your followers, not your friends, just you and him. And here's why that matters. Roots are the foundation of growth. They anchor the plant, they absorb what feeds it and, yes, they are strong but also very delicate. If they grow twisted or tangled, the plant suffers. If they're not given room to stretch, they begin to circle the same small space, starving for more. That's why, when God starts working in your root system, it may feel a little unsettling at first. He's not just rearranging things, he is untangling them. He's loosening you from places you've outgrown and gently ever so gently preparing you for more. Why? Well sometimes. One, he wants to heal the wounds buried deep in the soil of your past. Two, he may be breaking apart unhealthy attachments that are wrapped around your identity. Or three, he may be freeing you from survival habits you no longer need, because now you're in a season to thrive.
Speaker 2:So here's the thing about roots they grow best in the dark. You don't dig them up every day to see if they're working. You trust the process and that, ladies, you know. That's what faith looks like too. You may not see the fruit yet, but if you're still standing, still seeking, still showing up, your roots are going deeper. God is making sure that when you bloom, you'll have the strength to hold it, much like a sunflower.
Speaker 2:So the next time you think, why does this feel so heavy? Maybe you should ask instead God, are you growing me where no one else can see? Because, listen, despite my short stature, I have found that deep roots can make some tall trees Gently separated, detaching with purpose. Now here's where it starts to feel real. When God begins to repot you, he doesn't just yank you out of soil. No, he's a loving God. He gently, ever so gently, loosens what you've been clinging to, root by root.
Speaker 2:But if we're honest, that loosening can feel like a loss, am I right? You may feel like I don't know, you're being pulled away from the people you love, or a season that once felt very fruitful is all of a sudden just drying up, or even you're outgrowing something you once prayed to have. That's so confusing, it's disorienting. But listen here, it's not punishment. Sometimes we view it as punishment, but it is preparation, not punishment. Sometimes we view it as punishment, but it is preparation. Just like a good gardener carefully untangles roots that have become root bound, god lovingly separates you from the things that can choke your growth, like dependence on others instead of him, or even codependence in relationships where you lost your voice, or even your value, or idolatry, maybe putting jobs, people, routines or even, yes, ministry in God's place, or simply Because you're ready, you've matured and he has something new in store.
Speaker 2:So here's the truth. You might be feeling detached right now, but you're not discarded. You, my friend, are being positioned, prepared, even protected, and while that process may feel like everything is slipping through your fingers, do not forget God sees the whole garden. You, my sister, may only see the pot, so he's not asking you to understand it all, oh no, he's asking you to trust him through it all. So listen. If you're listening and you are sensing distance in relationships or even old habits that no longer fit, or you're even feeling restless where you once felt rooted, do not panic, my friend. Instead, pray. Pray, something like this Lord what are you separating me from that I no longer need to be tied to? What are you making room for in my life that I haven't even imagined yet? Because, ladies, sometimes the very thing you are grieving is the thing God is graciously pruning. I know that's an ouch Pruning does not feel good. New pot, new perspective, from containment to a calling. So how did I get to be such a gardener? Well, let me just say, how did I get to be such a gardener? Well, let me just say I didn't set out to get my green thumb in spiritual landscaping, but the soil of life, yeah, that's where I have found. It will teach you, as I'm sharing this with you today, I find myself in this very season. I didn't ask for it, but here I am, hands in the dirt, roots untangling.
Speaker 2:At first, as I mentioned earlier, I was anxious and even angry Angry at God, like, really God. Another change, haven't I already had enough. Because if you lived long as a single mom, you know, right, listen, life can be a revolving door of transition, but this one it's. Somehow it felt different. It was about the world around me. Or, excuse me, it wasn't about the world around me, no, it was about the work inside me. God wasn't just moving things, he was moving me, and I didn't recognize it right away. If I'm honest, what I did this is what Cher Bear does I started pulling back from places and people I had been planted in for a long time, spaces that were once vital to my spiritual and personal growth.
Speaker 2:And then I started to wrestle with the guilt and confusion of doing that. Why am I doing this? Am I backsliding? Am I running from something? Why do I feel so distant from the people who once carried me through my hardest seasons? But then, in his sovereignty, god shined a little light on this and I felt in my spirit this check, you're not falling back, you're growing forward. Those people, those places, they were your lifeline when you needed them. But you raised your son and he has moved out of the house, he has flown the coop. So now it's your turn, mama. It's your time to grow in a new way, not out of desperation, but out of development.
Speaker 2:And here's the thing about being moved in a new pot that I am finding, that I am sharing with you. One it might feel bigger, but also a little empty at first. Number two there's definitely more room in that pot, but all the roots have not formed in there yet. And number three you don't see the fruit, but you certainly feel the stretch. You don't see the fruit, but you certainly feel the stretch. So, listen, my advice to you is don't mislabel that emptiness as failure, as I did. It's the space that I have found that God creates when he's making room for something new.
Speaker 2:So, even if you don't know exactly where he's taking you, ladies, you can trust the Master Gardener, because when God moves you, he does it with intention. He doesn't transplant without a purpose, for I know the plans I have for you. We have heard that many a times in Jeremiah 29, 11. And yes, we're going there. Even if you don't know the plan yet, you can rest assured that he does. So don't panic in the process. Pause before you pull away. Let me tell you something.
Speaker 2:The moment and this is from my experience the moment you start to feel God repotting you, your first instinct might be to panic, to grab the nearest shovel and dig your way back into what felt safe. You may be tempted to I don't know go back to old relationships just because they're familiar, or you might be challenged to force doors open that God most certainly already closed. Or, number three, you might even rush ahead and plant yourself somewhere new, anywhere, just to avoid the feeling of unrooted. But hear me on this Listen, please Do not do not make sudden moves in a sacred season, because that's where you're at. You are in a sacred season.
Speaker 2:This is not the time to self sabotage or scramble to fix the silence. It is time, rather, to pause, because the stretching, the disconnection, the holy discomfort and there is a lot of that, oh yes, it's not meant to destroy you. Instead, rather, it is an invitation to deeper dependence. So, instead of asking what's wrong with me, maybe you flip that script and try asking Lord, what are you doing in me? Lean in pray more than you post, fast before you flee, and most certainly rest before you react. And if you're seeking advice let me caution you with this you must start with him first. Taking advice let me caution you with this you must start with him first. Then turn to only wise, trusted voices who know your heart and your history, not, listen to me, not just people who will validate your feelings, no, no, no but who will point you rather to the truth. And sometimes, you know, the truth hurts. Because this is why Because, when God is repotting you, you don't need everyone's opinion, you need his direction. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding In all your ways. Acknowledge him and he will make your path straight. Proverbs 3, 5 through 6,. That is found in many of our podcasts. We need to be reminded of that. Yes, you see, your path might feel crooked right now, but trust, it's being straightened out behind the scenes, underground. He's not just moving you, he's maturing you.
Speaker 2:So here is our one journal prompt for the podcast. It will have the two questions in it, so get your pens and your paper ready. Question number one where in my life do I feel things shifting or being pulled away? Things shifting or being pulled away? Two what might God be separating me from? Not to hurt me, but to heal me or grow me? Let this be a sacred space to reflect because, remember, you are in a sacred season, write without editing, Let the Holy Spirit speak and remember Mama, you're not being replanted because you failed. You're being repurposed because you're ready. So here's where I will close, because your garden matters too. I know your world shifted the day you became a single parent, just as mine did. It may have felt like everything changed overnight Plans, dreams, security and even your own identity. And since then you've poured so much into your kids, into their healing, into their growth, into their garden. But can I remind you of something? God is working on your garden too. This season isn't just about surviving, it's about healing, it's about replenishing, it's about renewal. Yes, your kids matter. Their well-being matters, but so does yours.
Speaker 2:You are not an afterthought in the story of your own life. You are the main character. God sees the ashes and listen girls. He is not afraid of them. In fact, he specializes in beauty from ashes. He doesn't waste anything, not the pain, not the loss, not even the transitions that left you breathless. Even now, he's using it all the tears, the letting go, the loneliness and even the longing. He's repurposing it into purpose. And while you're busy tending to everyone else's soil, god hasn't forgotten your roots. He is watering you too. So don't downplay your own growth just because it's quieter or slower than you expected, because the truth is, ladies, sometimes beautiful is already beginning to bloom in.
Speaker 2:You Need prayer while you're being repotted. If this episode stirred something in your spirit, maybe you're in a season of transition, feeling disconnected, unsure of what God is doing or just flat out tired from trying to keep it all together. I want you to know this you don't have to walk through this alone. We believe here at Shepherd's Village in the power of prayer. We believe in lifting up single moms like you in the middle of your mess. You're waiting and you're growing. So if you need someone to stand in faith with you, to pray over your roots you're healing your future. Please reach out to us. Call our 24-hour prayer line at 855-822-PRAY, that is, 855-822-7729. Day or night, someone from our village is here to pray with you Because, let me remind you, god sees you, he's with you and we are too. So until next time, stay rooted, stay present and trust the Master Gardener, because you, my friend, you were made to grow. Have a wonderful week and remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you.
Speaker 1:Thanks for listening to. It's a Single Mom Thing. I hope you enjoyed our time together. If you have more questions on how to have a relationship with Jesus or need prayer, visit us at wwwshepherdsvillagecom. Backslash prayer. For more information and resources, check out our show notes.
