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It's A Single Mom Thing
Welcome to “It's A Single Mom Thing,” the show for single moms by single moms, hosted by Sherry Chandler.
Being a solo momma and present parent is hard work, and losing focus is easy when you forget your faith. The good news is you are not alone. You were singled out this season, and together, we can work on what’s not working for you—finding Christ in the crisis! Whether you’re tuning in early in the morning or late at night, I’m here for you, momma.
This podcast is your go-to space for navigating life as a single mom with faith, fun, and a fresh perspective. We'll cover everything from mastering a single-mom success mindset and budgeting like a boss to prioritizing self-care and raising resilient kids. We’ll share time management hacks, parenting perspectives, co-parenting challenges, and how to find joy and laugh again. Together, we’ll move from surviving to thriving in every season of single motherhood.
Be encouraged. Get inspired. You can do this, momma.
Each Monday, join me for practical advice, relatable stories, and uplifting conversations as we walk this journey from solo momma to solo momma. I promise not to take too much of your time, and I’m so grateful you’re spending it with me.
It may be a single mom thing, but it doesn’t have to be the "single thing" that stops you!
It's A Single Mom Thing
Single Mom Success Saboteurs: Stop What’s Stopping You, Sis
Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or like you're your own worst enemy sometimes? You're not alone—and not crazy. In this power-packed episode of It’s a Single Mom Thing, we’re exposing the top success saboteurs that keep single moms stuck: from isolation and self-sufficiency to waiting for a man to fix it and letting your past write your future.
We’ll show you how to flip the script, rewire the lies, and walk in fierce, faith-filled freedom. Because you don’t have to be a prisoner of your past or a puppet to your pressure. You were created for more—and success starts when you stop what’s been silently stopping you.
Whether you're navigating single parenting, trying to heal from trauma, or chasing your next breakthrough—this episode is your wake-up call and your strategy for single mom success.
🎯 Power Phrases
📖 Scripture-based truth
📝 Journal prompts to rewrite your future
Listen now and let’s kick those saboteurs to the curb—together.
It's a Single Mom Thing, Not the Single Thing That Stops You!
Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing, the show for single moms by single moms. This is Sherri, your host, and I am happy you are here today. Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you. Hello, my single peeps, and welcome back to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing. So I'm going to come out swinging hard. I got a question for you, ladies, so I'm going to come out swinging hard. I got a question for you, ladies. Now listen, I'm going to ask you this what if the biggest thing standing between you and your breakthrough is you? Yep, I said it. Now wait, don't go walk out on your success and leave this podcast. There is something here for you.
Speaker 1:You see, this episode is for every single mom who's doing all the things but yet she still feels stuck, frustrated or low-key self-sabotaging. You're showing up, but you're also shutting down. You're dreaming big but doubting even bigger. You're praying for change but still clinging to old habits. Toxic thoughts and survival mode patterns Sound familiar? Oh, I know, because I can relate too. So today we're calling out those sneaky success saboteurs that hide out in our shadow self, the lies, the behaviors and mindset traps that keep you from walking in the freedom, confidence and power that keep you from holding your head up straight, shoulders back and your crown on your head. These, my dear God's already given these to you. Yeah, I see you spirit of sabotage and soon will the soul of mama listening, whose success you are stealing.
Speaker 1:And listen, sis. It is time to take back what was stolen and it is time to flip that script, because here's what I know. You, like me, may be a product of your past, oh, yes, okay, but you are not a prisoner of it. Uh-huh, we went there. You don't have to rinse and repeat cycles just because that's what you were handed, and you sure as heaven don't need a man or a mood to tell you what your next move should be.
Speaker 1:This episode, this podcast, is about your success, your growth and your healing. Are you ready to own it, like the woman of worth that you are Product of the past, but not a prisoner of it? Where you came from doesn't get to dictate where you're going. It's time to do an about face, sister. Now listen, I know firsthand. Your story may have started with trauma, betrayal, rejection or a heartbreak that knocked the wind out of you, but listen, girl, you are not bound to that beginning. You don't have to walk around wearing shame like a second skin. Yes, you made choices. Yes, someone also made choices that hurt you, but grace, oh grace says that doesn't get to define you anymore.
Speaker 1:And I do realize that I may not be talking about the other co-parent, I may be talking about your parent, but what I want to let you in on, the secret that I have learned, is this when you are his meaning God's, he doesn't just erase your past, he replaces it with purpose. And it says here in Isaiah 43, 18 through 19,. And it says forget the former things, do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing. That new thing, it might start today. It may start with finally realizing you don't need to drag every regret, every mistake, every X and every failure into your future. That baggage, it doesn't match your outfit anymore. Boo, can you say wardrobe change? So here's a little pep talk that you can have with yourself when that saboteur shows up and it goes like this I may be a product of my past, but I refuse to be a prisoner of it. You see, you know, girl, just like I do, that Jesus freed you from those things. So why are you still holding yourself hostage to them? You need to think about that.
Speaker 1:Feelings are real, but they don't rule you. So let's be real. Most of us, yeah we make decisions based on pressure, pain, panic, pleasure or even pride. We're reacting instead of responding, acting instead of responding, surviving instead of stewarding. And that, mama, is sabotage. Just because something feels urgent doesn't mean it's wise. Just because you're mad, sad or hormonal doesn't mean you burn it all down or even close yourself off. You are allowed to feel it, yes, but you are not obligated to obey it. Feelings are not facts. Feelings can be used as signals or signposts, even that something is going on that you need to get a pulse on, but they don't always indicate what you're feeling is true. The reality is is that a situation may have triggered a response from the past that is running in the background, the saying what is fired is wired If you keep letting it go on and you aren't aware of it. Well, now, that is going to continue to fire off in your brain and is now is wired as what you believe is a true thought, because it feels a certain way.
Speaker 1:Now I'll give you an example from my own life. Okay, when I started to take notice that my single mom friend group that I rolled with started to change into a single mom now married group, and I was now the only single mom in that group. I started to think to myself, these kinds of crazy thoughts, like something was wrong with me. That was, let's just say, that one thought there. That was the match that lit the fire of emotions and the soon to be uncontrolled burn that raged on from there and it sounded like this oh, now I don't fit in, I can't relate to them anymore. Now we can't do things together. Oh, they will forget about me. You see, that feeling and that's, those are the I'm not going into all the down and dirty things I used to say, but listen, the one match, that one feeling fueled the flame in my fiery furnace to burn down all those relationships down to the ground, walking away from that group all together. Now, mind you, not one, not one of these women ever said, suggested or did any of these things that derailed my train of thought. Oh, no, but my feelings, yeah, that's what certainly did it.
Speaker 1:Feelings that stem from, maybe, an anxious attachment I had, or past hurts from past people that wasn't even my single peeps. Now, mind you, as I now am healed and I'm healed of those hurts, those friendships, thankfully, through prayer and a lot of work from God, are now healed too. So here's a little pep talk that maybe you need to have with yourself today, and it goes like this I lead with faith, not feelings. Emotions may ride with me, but they don't drive me, or even go to Proverbs 3, 5. That says it this way Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, which may be, do not lean on your feelings, so lean into faith when your feelings try to make a fool of you. Okay, so now we're going to move on to four silent saboteurs, the ones that we don't ever talk about, and here's where it gets real. Let's talk about the sneaky saboteurs that steal our success quietly, the ones that are sitting there back in the background, background, just waiting for an open door to come in and slam it in our face.
Speaker 1:Number one isolation. And isolation says I don't need anyone. Girl, yeah, you do. You're not meant to solo parent your faith walk either. Did you hear me? You may be a solo parent, but your faith walk doesn't need you to walk it out as a solo parent either. Did you hear me? You may be a solo parent, but your faith walk doesn't need you to walk it out as a solo parent either. Healing grows, and I have learned this from my own life. Healing grows. I grew in community. Success does too, and so don't go this alone and remember if you do. Don't go this alone and remember if you do. It is a choice.
Speaker 1:Number two self-sufficiency. Self-sufficiency says help. Oh, that's right, I don't ask for help. That's pride in disguise. Girl, god created us for interdependence with him. It's funny. I remember the day when I started rolling with God and he started to do a work in my life, as I had been codependent on a lot of people in my life. I remember the day that I said, oh Lord, I'm becoming dependent on you. And then I was like I heard this, like little silent. Yeah, well, yeah, that's kind of supposed to go that way. You're supposed to become a little interdependent with me. Just a little funny there, as I segue and get us back on course.
Speaker 1:How about number three unforgiveness. Bitterness is sabotage dressed in control. It drains your peace, your patience and your ability to parent from wholeness. Hebrews 12, 15 says it this way see to it that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble. Now, mind you, your unforgiveness may even be, shockingly, with God. How many of you listening are secretly mad at God for your situation or continued circumstance that maybe, I don't know, is caused by isolation and self-sufficiency that is controlling you? And let me let you in on the secret that unforgiveness gives the saboteur in the shadows. It gives that spirit of saboteur shadow access to come and steal your success. You see, the enemy doesn't come as a thief in the night to steal things. He also, which you know, he comes to destroy. Sin, by the way, which is unforgiveness, may just be sabotaging you and you may just be unaware of it. But now you can't unsee it. Maybe you need to look at some areas in your life where there is some unforgiveness.
Speaker 1:So next is another, and we're going to close with our four saboteurs. We're moving on to number four, and this is another single mom saboteur that I have seen listen in my own life, as well as other single moms that I work with. And this is the waiting for a man to fix it. Saboteur Girl, listen, and we've talked about this before. Another relationship won't rescue your purpose. A man, yeah, he can compliment your life most definitely, but he's not your comeback plan. So what is your comeback plan, though? Is a focus on God's plan for your life. And then, girl, listen, god will bring the man for your life. So here's your pep talk. I'm not waiting for a rescue, I'm walking in revival. That's some good stuff. Flip the script and fuel your future.
Speaker 1:You see, doing the same thing and expecting a different result, that's not faith, that's burnout in disguise. It's like doing donut circles in your mind, going around and around, kind of almost like a merry-go-round, to upsetting not only your stomach but your present moments too. You see, we've got to do something different, and sometimes that difference starts with calling out the lie and speaking the truth. Now, you know, I'm not going to let you go through a podcast without your Thriving 25 journal, so I hope you have it handy, and I need you to write this down in your journal the lie I have been believing, and then, once you start working through that, then I want you to work on to the next page, which is the truth I am choosing instead, and I'll give you some examples. Then I want you to work on to the next page, which is the truth. I am choosing instead, and I'll give you some examples. And you've heard this one before I'm not enough, which now becomes he is more than enough in me.
Speaker 1:Or the saboteur of it's too late for me to the truth, which is God's timing is still on time. Or the if I don't fix this, it'll all fall apart. Well, how about the truth of I'm not the Savior, he is, can I get an amen? Or the? If I don't fix this, it'll all fall apart. Well, how about the truth of I'm not the savior, he is? Can I get an amen? Or the? This time I'm not doing a rinse and repeat, I am writing a reboot.
Speaker 1:So, as I close, girl, listen, if you saw yourself in this episode, know this. There is no shame in the pause, only power in the pivot. So, like the episode, pivot, pivot, pivot. Today. Flip the script and flip those feelings off like a light switch, not with a universal wave. Okay, call out the saboteur and hand it over to your savior.
Speaker 1:And listen, ladies, you were meant for more. You just may not feel it right now. And remember what we said about feelings. So remember you are God's greatest creation and he loves you so much. You need to receive that, don't block that blessing. Now, said differently, I will close with this analogy that will make sense in a minute. So hang in there like a loose hair in a biscuit, because at first it's not going to make sense.
Speaker 1:And it's this phrase don't reject the winter coat that was given to you as a summer present. Just this week I saw, I witnessed this, and it's funny because I have seen this in my own life. So this is why it's funny to me. Just this week I witnessed someone who really really got bent out of shape and went all sideways just straight, dripping over a precious winter coat that was given as a gift to her two-year-old, as a birthday present. Yes, it's Florida and yes, it is hot this time of year, but listen, this gift it was given out of the kindness and obedience of a sweet 80-year-old woman's heart who's living on a fixed income, much like that single mom who was being obedient to the command the Lord had put on her heart and who just wanted to show the love of Jesus to a single mom who maybe just needed it. She may not have needed that coat this time of year, I agree, but she maybe just needed to open both of her hands in the simple act of just receiving.
Speaker 1:From my experience sometimes I have learned that Jesus gives gifts in strange wrapping paper that to us seems silly, pointless and downright painful at times, and we stand there with our arms crossed and fists clenched, unwilling to receive it. Instead, we block a blessing, sabotage a lesson, a healing, a provision and even a blessing. I wonder how many times this single mom has blocked the gracious and great plans God has for her Because the saboteur, the spirit of isolation and self-sufficiency and unforgiveness got in the way of her healing as her present moment is lived in the past, need prayer and need to let go of some unforgiveness. Call our 24-hour prayer line at 855-822-PRAY. You're not alone and we are here to help you. And hey, subscribe on Apple Spotify or iHeartRadio so you never miss your dose of truth and tea.
Speaker 1:So next weekend I'm going to be off. It is Memorial Day weekend and I hope you all have a wonderful time with your family and friends. Remember, it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you, and we will be back here. My goodness, it's going to be June. Take care, my ladies. Thanks for listening to. It's a Single Mom Thing. I hope you enjoyed our time together. If you have more questions on how to have a relationship with Jesus or need prayer, visit us at wwwshepherdsvillagecom. Backslash prayer. For more information and resources, check out our show notes.
