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It's A Single Mom Thing
Welcome to “It's A Single Mom Thing,” the show for single moms by single moms, hosted by Sherry Chandler.
Being a solo momma and present parent is hard work, and losing focus is easy when you forget your faith. The good news is you are not alone. You were singled out this season, and together, we can work on what’s not working for you—finding Christ in the crisis! Whether you’re tuning in early in the morning or late at night, I’m here for you, momma.
This podcast is your go-to space for navigating life as a single mom with faith, fun, and a fresh perspective. We'll cover everything from mastering a single-mom success mindset and budgeting like a boss to prioritizing self-care and raising resilient kids. We’ll share time management hacks, parenting perspectives, co-parenting challenges, and how to find joy and laugh again. Together, we’ll move from surviving to thriving in every season of single motherhood.
Be encouraged. Get inspired. You can do this, momma.
Each Monday, join me for practical advice, relatable stories, and uplifting conversations as we walk this journey from solo momma to solo momma. I promise not to take too much of your time, and I’m so grateful you’re spending it with me.
It may be a single mom thing, but it doesn’t have to be the "single thing" that stops you!
It's A Single Mom Thing
Raising Rockstars: How to Help Your Kids Thrive (Not Just Survive)
Feeling like you and your kids are stuck in survival mode?
It’s time for a mindset (and motherhood) shift, Mama.
In today’s Power-Up Pep Talk, we’re flipping the script on survival and stepping into THRIVE mode—one intentional day, one connection, one celebration at a time.
You’ll learn:
✅ Four key ingredients to help your kids thrive emotionally, spiritually, and mentally
✅ How your healing journey sets the stage for whole family healing
✅ Practical, bite-sized ways to build connection, consistency, celebration, and speak life over your home
✅ Why thriving kids don’t need a perfect parent—they need a growing, steady one
Plus, hear a special bonus scripture encouragement from one of our amazing students at Indian Rocks Christian School—speaking truth and hope straight into your heart.
🎯 This week, it’s not about doing more. It’s about living more intentionally—and showing your kids what true thriving looks like.
🎧 Listen now and join the Thrive in ’25 movement!
📲 For more encouragement and connection, visit shepherdsvillage.com
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It's a Single Mom Thing, Not the Single Thing That Stops You!
Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing, the show for single moms by single moms. This is Sherri, your host, and I am happy you are here today. Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you.
Speaker 2:Welcome back my rock star mamas. So listen, today's talk is not about barely surviving bedtime routines, sports practices, school projects and grocery lists oh no, today is about flipping that survival script on its head. Today we are talking about how to help your kids thrive, not just survive, in a world that's throwing challenges at them faster than you can say where's your other shoe. So here's a little spoiler alert you don't have to be the perfect mom. You already are. Yes, hot mess, express and stress and all you see. You don't need a Pinterest perfect house, a six figure income, a handy husband or even a fresh out of the dryer attitude every day. Oh no, what your kids simply need is you, the real, present, purpose-driven you. So today's pep talk is packed with some power truths and practical hacks you can put into action, starting right now when we conclude our time together. So you raid, rock this thing, girl, let's go. So surviving isn't the goal, thriving is Now. Let's be real as a single mom, survival mode well, it can feel like an Olympic sport, as we have discussed before in previous podcasts, minus the medals and the awards ceremony Get the kids to school, show up for work, keep everybody fed, maybe shower if you're lucky and on to the next event. Survival mode it keeps you breathing, oh, yes, it does. But thriving mode, ooh, that's what helps you and your kids build dreams. To build dreams, you think, from the end result and not the messy middle that only keeps you, my sister, the monkey, in the middle. So here's the truth bomb that I'm going to drop on you today. Your kids thrive when they feel seen, supported and secure, even when life is messy. Kind of like you, just in pint-sized bodies, and mama don't miss this. Like you, just in pint-sized bodies, and mama don't miss this. The work you are doing on yourself, showing up for your healing, setting boundaries, learning to thrive instead of survive, it doesn't just change you, it changes the environment your kids are growing up in. It changes the direction of their footsteps as they walk out in faith into their foreseeable and fulfilling future. You see, when you choose to heal, when you choose to grow, when you choose to thrive, you're not just breaking generational patterns, you're building new generational platforms.
Speaker 2:Can I get an amen? You see, rather than surviving as a human doing who lives on default and default mode, you thrive as a human being who lives out her destiny. You know the one you were called to, the one that you are being prepared for. You see, whole family healing my sweet sisters begins with you and listen thriving. It is contagious. Your kids will want to catch that, and you know what I love your kids. They get the front row seats to watch what real resilience and real faith looks like, not from a sermon, but from your life.
Speaker 2:It's not about having it all figured out no, in fact, you don't need to do that. It's about being intentional, about building moments, memories and mindsets. It's about catching your breath and catching those negative thoughts, taking them captive and stepping into your position of power. Now, john 10.10 says it this way I have come that they may have life and have it to the full. Mama, your kids were made for a full life, not a barely getting by life. So check this you need to remind yourself, probably on the daily, that you are not just raising kids. You are raising future rock stars who know who they are and whose they are. That is a gift that gives for generations, my dear, and it is a legacy gift, it is an inheritance. So four keys we're going to go on to four key ingredients to help kids thrive.
Speaker 2:So all right, let's get a little practical here. If you're wondering okay, sherry, what's the secret sauce? How do I help them thrive? Here are the four ingredients you need to sprinkle into your daily mix. Just a suggestion you might want to get your journal out for this. Number one connection over perfection. Kids need connection way more than they need a Pinterest worthy birthday party. You see, 10 minutes of undivided attention beats two hours of distracted half their presence. That's just 10 minutes. I know you got it. Maybe if you slow your scroll. So put the phone down, make eye contact, I don't know. Even ask a weird question how about listen without multitasking and maybe even tell a joke or hear something new, share something you learned today, which kind of shows them that you are still?
Speaker 1:growing too.
Speaker 2:Here's a little example, a little starter question maybe, that you could ask If you could create a new holiday, what would it be? What would you call it? Or you could even try this one. You know what I learned today? I learned I don't always have to have the answers, and that's okay.
Speaker 2:Number two celebrate the little wins. Stop saving the party hats for the big milestones. Instead, celebrate the small victories, like finishing homework without a meltdown, remembering to say thank you. That's fun, definitely Trying something new without quitting. Here's something else you could do Cheer them on like they just won a Grammy award. May I even suggest keeping some party hats or confetti on standby for random celebrations, because every little win waters their confidence.
Speaker 2:Three consistency is queen and your little subjects well, they need it. Give them clear expectations, loving, reliable follow through, predictability in an unpredictable world. Let's get honest here for a second. How many of you are sending your kids off to the co-parent's house every other weekend where the only predictable thing is the unpredictability? I lived it and while it might seem like fun in the moment late bedtimes misroutines it left my son tired, cranky and emotionally wobbly when he came home. It took two days just to recenter him. But over time my consistent schedule became his safe space. He knew bedtime, he knew mealtime, he knew there was stability waiting for him. And guess what? The tantrums decreased, the anxiety settled, the trust, well, between us it deepened. Consistency builds trust. Trust builds thrivers. Consistency gives them a foundation steady enough for those little rock stars to dance on Number four, controlled tongue.
Speaker 2:Speak life and speak truth. Sow seeds of truth deep into their fertile soil with your words. Sow seeds of truth deep into their fertile soil with your words. Speak words of worthiness, identity, calling, anointing favor. Speak life over their dreams, even the ones they're scared to say out loud. Speak God's promises louder than the world's problems. Your words shape their inner dialogue for years to come. And, mama, don't just speak perfection, model humility, model vulnerability. Show them that being human is not weakness, it's a strength wrapped in some grace. You see, when you mess up because you will say something like I was wrong, I'm sorry and I'm learning too. Because they don't need to see a perfect mom. They need to see a faithful, growing, rooted woman who knows she is and whose she is, is and whose she is. So here's the big truth here Even when everything else feels messy, your steady love. It anchors them, much like God's steady love anchors you. So here's a quick exercise, a power up your parenting practice.
Speaker 2:Now that you've got your four ingredients, let's stir them into your real life, one spoonful at a time. So, for starters, I want you to pick one of the four areas connection, celebration, consistency or controlled tongue. Write it big and bold across a fresh page in your Thriving 25 journal and, each day this week, jot down one simple thing you did to pour into that area. For example, let's say connection you put down your phone during dinner and asked your son about his best moment today. Or, if you pick celebration, surprised your daughter with a thank you for being awesome sticky note in her lunchbox. How about consistency? You stuck to your 8 pm bedtime even when you both were cranky. Or a controlled tongue you prayed a blessing over your child's morning before school.
Speaker 2:The goal to see is how small daily deposits build thriving kids and a thriving family culture, because thriving isn't built in a big dramatic moment. It's built in the daily, ordinary faithfulness that feels invisible but creates invincible. Your kids don't need perfect, they need present. So here's your reminder beautiful, your kids don't need perfect, they need present. So here's your reminder beautiful. Your kids don't need a perfect mom. They need a present one, a growing one, a praying one. Let them see you try, let them see you pray, let them see you fail and fall down, even. Let them see you get back up after hard days, because resilience isn't just something you preach, it's something that you teach and that they catch by watching you live it.
Speaker 2:Philippians 1.6 says he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion. God is still working in you, mama, and he's still working in them. Reminder, you are raising warriors, not worriers. That is so old school lunch. Also, remember when you rise, they rise. When you heal, they heal. When you thrive, they learn it's possible to thrive too.
Speaker 2:This isn't just your thrive journey, listen. No, it is theirs too, and you are building a new legacy One healed heart, one strong boundary, one brave prayer at a time. So here's where we will close our pep talk today. All right, rock stars, you're already doing better than you think, so you need to give yourself a little hand clap this week. Remember choose one thing whether it's more connection, more celebration, more consistency or more of a controlled tongue and live it out loud. Write it in your Thrive in 25 journal. Watch how your little rock stars begin to thrive, not just survive, and remember when you rise they rise. When you heal, they heal. And when you thrive you show them that thriving is their birthright too.
Speaker 2:Now, if this Power Up Pep Talk fired you up, sister, listen, you need to make sure to subscribe to. It's a Single Mom Think podcast on Apple Podcasts, spotify or iHeartRadio, so you don't miss a moment of this thrive journey. And two, please be sure to share this episode with another rock star mama who's ready to help her kids build more than life. They're ready to help them build a legacy. And now, before we close today's episode, I have a special bonus for you One of our incredible students from Indian Rocks Christian School who wanted to encourage you with a powerful word of God, to remind you you're not raising kids alone. You are raising them under the covering of his promises. So take a deep breath and receive this truth into your spirit today. Hi, my name is Aubrey. My favorite verse is Jeremiah 29 11. For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord Plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. Have a wonderful week and remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you.
Speaker 1:Thanks for listening to. It's a Single Mom Thing. I hope you enjoyed our time together. If you have more questions on how to have a relationship with Jesus or need prayer, visit us at wwwshepherdsvillagecom. Backslash prayer. For more information and resources, check out our show notes.
