It's A Single Mom Thing
Welcome to “It's A Single Mom Thing,” the show for single moms by single moms, hosted by Sherry Chandler.
Being a solo momma and present parent is hard work, and losing focus is easy when you forget your faith. The good news is you are not alone. You were singled out this season, and together, we can work on what’s not working for you—finding Christ in the crisis! Whether you’re tuning in early in the morning or late at night, I’m here for you, momma.
This podcast is your go-to space for navigating life as a single mom with faith, fun, and a fresh perspective. We'll cover everything from mastering a single-mom success mindset and budgeting like a boss to prioritizing self-care and raising resilient kids. We’ll share time management hacks, parenting perspectives, co-parenting challenges, and how to find joy and laugh again. Together, we’ll move from surviving to thriving in every season of single motherhood.
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Each Monday, join me for practical advice, relatable stories, and uplifting conversations as we walk this journey from solo momma to solo momma. I promise not to take too much of your time, and I’m so grateful you’re spending it with me.
It may be a single mom thing, but it doesn’t have to be the "single thing" that stops you!
It's A Single Mom Thing
How To Wear Your Crooked Crown
In this soulful, sassy episode of It’s a Single Mom Thing, we’re getting real about the beautiful messiness of life and learning to embrace our “crooked crowns.” Host Sherry takes listeners on a journey to rediscover their worth, find joy in their unique quirks, and celebrate the strength found in every imperfect moment.
You’ll hear how your crown, tilted or not, is a sign of resilience, refined like gold through life’s challenges. Sherry shares practical ways to rock that crown confidently, give yourself grace, and lean on the sisterhood that helps keep it steady. With humor, heart, and a powerful reminder of God’s love, this episode will leave you feeling uplifted, inspired, and ready to walk through life with confidence—even if your crown sits a little sideways.
Tune in for encouragement, a dash of sass, and a whole lot of love. Because, queen, you’re meant to shine—just as you are.
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It's a Single Mom Thing, Not the Single Thing That Stops You!
Welcome to it's a Single Mom Thing, the show for single moms by single moms. This is Sherri, your host, and I am happy you are here today. Remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you. What up, my wonderful warriors and women of worth. Welcome back to another episode of it's a Single Mom Thing, the podcast, where we keep it real, keep it raw and keep it uplifting for all you unstoppable single moms out there.
Speaker 1:I'm your host, sherri, and today we're talking about something close to my heart, but something I'm sure you've never considered, and I'm sure will be close to your heart as well, and that's how to wear a crooked crown. Now let me ask you something have you ever felt like life just keeps tipping your crown a little to the left, a little to the right, maybe even spinning right off your head? If you're nodding along, girl, you are not alone. I have been there. I have worn that tilted crown on days I felt like a hot mess express, and let me tell you I still showed up, even if barely there. And you can too, see, we're not here to talk about perfection. Oh no, honey. We're here to talk about showing up as you are, even when things feel a little well crooked. I'm talking about perfection amongst the imperfections, because the truth is, god gave you that crown and he didn't make a mistake when he put it on your head, whether it's sitting straight or it's leaning sideways, a little bit like mine.
Speaker 1:See, here's the deal. Life, you know. It throws us curveballs, knuckleballs and sometimes some sliders. Sometimes it's like the whole pitching machine on high speed coming right at your strike zone. One day you're feeling like a shero, juggling all those things so well and looking so cute doing it, and then the next day, well, yeah, the next day you're just trying to make it to bedtime without losing your cool Sound, familiar. Well, today we're going to embrace that tilted crown together and we're going to do it with some soul, some sass and a whole lot of love, because this episode isn't about putting on a picture-perfect front, oh no, it's about owning your worth, seeing yourself the way God sees you, not the world, and letting that crown sit however it pleases. So here's the plan for today's podcast we're going to dig into what it means to wear your crown, even when life's a little messy, why a crooked crown is still a crown and maybe possibly even a better one and how to lean into God's grace, knowing you are fearfully and wonderfully made, tilts and all. So grab your coffee, throw on those fuzzy slippers and let's get real about you wearing that crown, even if it's a little bit crooked.
Speaker 1:Let's go Embracing the crookedness. Perfection in the imperfection. All right, ladies, let's get into it. So here's the thing about that crown of yours it might not always sit perfectly straight, but that doesn't mean it's lost any of its shine. In fact, that little tilt, that's what gives it character, gives you character. It's like God put a little flare in there to wear in your hair, a reminder that your worth is an imperfection, but in the imperfection, showing up just as you are, even if it's a bad hair day. Well, especially if it's a bad hair day.
Speaker 1:You see, you know as well as I do that we live in a world that is obsessed with the flawless Instagram version of everything. But you know what that's not real and on the 100. Real life is messy, unpredictable and full of little moments and mess-ups where things don't go as planned and, honestly, would you really want it any other way? You see, those little imperfections, those off days and crooked crown moments they're what makes you real, makes you relatable, makes you you and makes you unique. I remember on my wedding day check this my mom was straight tripping when she saw how I wore my makeup. She thought I should do a redo. But you know what I so love the truth that my sister-in-law spoke into that very difficult moment. She said to my mom, if Sherry changed the way she did her makeup, it would change her makeup. Frank aka, that's my son's father. He fell in love with Sherry, whose makeup is exactly the same today, as it was the day he met her.
Speaker 1:So here's a little scriptural soul talk, a reminder straight from God himself. Ever heard of 2 Corinthians 12 9? That's where Paul says, and I quote my grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. Now, did you catch that? His power is made perfect in our weakness. He's not asking us to be perfect. He is asking us to let him fill in the gaps where we can't. So when life's knocked you sideways and you feel like your crown is one strong wind away from toppling, lean into his strength and not yours. So here's what I want you to do Start seeing that crooked part of yourself as one of the jewels in your crown.
Speaker 1:Think of it as a gem that's been polished by the struggles, the joys and the sheer grit it's taken to get you to where you are right now. Each imperfection, every little tilt and quirk adds a unique sparkle that makes your crown and your story shine even brighter. Oh, yes, that jewel. It is proof that you're not just surviving, you are thriving in the messy, in the beautiful reality of life. You're showing up day in and day out for your family, for your dreams and even for yourself, trusting in God's perfect plan for your life. And those little flaws you might want to hide, they're actually, girl. What makes your crown richer, more beautiful, more you. Each one is a reminder that you are God's unique creation, crafted with care, strength and purpose, refined like gold. So here's the truth about that crown of yours it's made of something precious, something lasting, just like gold. So here's the truth about that crown of yours it's made of something precious, something lasting, just like gold.
Speaker 1:And gold, as you know, has to go through some serious heat to reach its purest, most valuable form. When gold is tested by fire, the impurities rise to the surface, where they can be removed. What's left behind is pure, shining strength. The same goes for us Life's fires, those storms, heartbreaks and hard days. They bring things to the surface. Sometimes it's self-doubt, fear, maybe even anger or guilt. And while those things can feel heavy, they're also an opportunity for us to let God work in us, refining us, making us stronger, clearer, more radiant.
Speaker 1:Every time you go through something hard, think of it as another step in the refining process, with God Chipping away at anything that doesn't belong, leaving only what's true and beautiful, even for a crooked crown. So the next time life turns up the heat and you feel those impurities bubbling up, remember, girl, this is your refining moment. God's at work, removing what doesn't serve you and leaving you shining, solid and beautiful. And that crown of yours, it is only getting purer, richer, more precious with every trial. Why? Because you are precious to him, a rare treasure.
Speaker 1:And on that note let's do a sassy self-affirmation. Now I want you to take a deep breath with me here, close your eyes unless you're driving, then you can eat to keep those eyes on the road and I want you to say to yourself I am fearfully and wonderfully made, I am worthy, crown tilt and all Okay, you can open your eyes Because, guess what, friend, god sees you shining just as you are. No perfection needed, no, getting it altogether required. The tilt is part of the testimony Embracing your crooked crown with soul and some swagger. All right, queen, let's talk about that crown and why it doesn't need to be perfectly polished or sitting straight to make you any less worthy. In fact, it is those quirks that we talked about, those little bumps, cracks and tilts that give you soul, that give you some swagger. You're one of a kind and that crown you're rocking. It was custom made by God for you, quirks and all.
Speaker 1:So you need to own your quirks. Ladies, let's just put this out there. God did not design you to fit into some cookie cutter mold. Oh no, he made you to stand out, not fit in with every beautiful, unique part of who you are. The world might say you need to have it all together. But let me tell you a little secret Real life is way more fun when you don't. Your crooked moments, the times when life is anything but perfect, that is what makes you real and real. Real is where God does his best work. Real is where people get to see the real you. Real is where they get to see him shining through you.
Speaker 1:So if you're rocking that crooked crown maybe you're juggling work, kids bills, school and everything in between. Girl, you need to own it. Let those quirks shine. They're not flaws. They're the details that make your crown sparkle with a little extra pizzazz. They're reminders that you're not just some carbon copy. You are an original masterpiece created with intention. Masterpiece created with intention, loved as you are. Tilt and all that's a word Ooh, this is good. I so need this reminder today. I hope you did too.
Speaker 1:Now imagine this when your crown's a bit off kilter, when you feel like you're slipping, god's grace is holding you up, steadying you and reminding you that his strength is enough. Every time you think you're about to fall apart, he's right there saying I've got you, lean into me. So when life tips you off balance, girl, just remember his grace is your anchor. You're still upright because he's got you right. In that crooked place, swagger with a purpose. Now here's what I want you to do Walk through life today with that soul and swagger that says yes, I am imperfect.
Speaker 1:And that's exactly where God shines in me. Let that confidence show Every time you catch yourself thinking I'm not enough. Remember God says you are enough. You don't have to fix or straighten everything about yourself. To be worthy, you just have to be willing to show up with all your quirks and beautiful messiness and let God fill in the gaps. So here's a sassy call to action. So go on and adjust that crown if you need to, but wear it proudly, sister. Keep showing up, because you've got something. This world needs something only that you can bring. Your crown might be a little crooked, but it is yours and it is exactly as God intended, seeing yourself as crowned and confident. All right, let's get down to some real talk, even more than we've already talked.
Speaker 1:Ladies, it's time to fully own that crown, crooked or not. I want you to remember that, whether it's a good day, a bad day, or did I really just leave the house in my pajamas kind of day you are royalty, period. And that crown on your head, it is not going anywhere. You don't need hairpins to hold it on your heads. You don't need your hands to hold it on your heads, you just need to rock it. You are royalty, honey.
Speaker 1:So let's get one thing straight God himself put that crown on your head and he didn't do it by mistake. There is no person, no struggle and no, I don't know. If I can't do this, that can take that crown away. You are a queen, a warrior, a daughter of the king. Even on the messiest of days, even when bed hair, sweatpants and crocs kind of day and honey, let me tell you, those days count just as much as the ones where you've got it all together, rocking your lululemons.
Speaker 1:So when you're feeling tired, stretched thin, bloated or even doubting yourself, I want you to pause, breathe and remember you are already enough. God's already declared you worthy. This isn't about proving anything to anyone. It is about you embracing who you are, who God has made you to be, and owning that crown with every ounce of confidence. You are crowned with his confidence, unshakable value. Now let me also tell you something else about your value, your worth. It isn't measured by how smooth the ride is or how perfect everything looks. No, ma'am, your worth is unshakable, unbreakable and untouchable. The value is what he places on it and no one else. And if anybody ever tries to tell you otherwise, you need to just tilt that crown just a little bit more, look at them square in the eye and say I may not have it all together, but I am still standing tall.
Speaker 1:And this crown. It isn't going anywhere, not today, satan. You see that crown, it isn't just some fancy thing for decoration. It is a symbol, a symbol of resilience, strength and divine purpose. So if anyone or anything tries to shake your confidence, girl, you need to remember that you are standing on a firm foundation built by God himself, the rock on which you stand on. He has already called you valuable, beloved and crowned. You don't have to wait until things are just right to walk into that truth. You get to live it right now, exactly as you are, and walk it out now, embracing your true worth.
Speaker 1:So let's make a pact today and I'm speaking to the choir here, because I need to hear this message too no more second guessing our worth, no more downplaying our gifts, no more shrinking back. We are crowned and honey. That crown comes with confidence. Even if it's a bit crooked, it still shines. It is a reminder that we've got purpose, that we are covered in grace and that we're walking through this life as God's chosen. Is it getting holy up in here, or is it just me? So here is another sassy call to action. I want you to hold your head high, adjust that crown and keep moving forward with confidence that says I am God's beloved, chosen and crowned, on the good days and the hard days and on every single day in between, because that girl is the truth and you need to walk it out. And here's some practical tips on how we can walk that out owning the crooked crown and loving it. All right, my lady.
Speaker 1:So, now that we've established that our crown is on there for our good, let's talk about how to own it, crooked and all with some serious love and ownership, because this isn't just about surviving, as I said earlier. It's about showing up, celebrating about who you are and wearing that crown with some serious style, style that the world has never seen walk down a runway before. And here's how we do that. Number one, we're gonna celebrate our unique style. And here's the first thing you need to know that crown of yours doesn't have to sit straight, as we said before. It just has to sit proud. The real beauty of your crown is how you wear it.
Speaker 1:So go ahead and be bold about the things that make you. You Show up, as we've discussed earlier, with your quirks, with your laugh, with your big dreams, with your big personality and, yes, even your setbacks, because, girlfriend, listen, that's where the miracles live. Stop trying to fix the. Listen to me, I'm going to keep going with all my mistakes right here. Stop trying to fix the parts of you that feel different or even out of place. Those parts are exactly what make your crown sparkle your unique style, your journey, your sense of humor. All of that brings something beautiful, unpredictable and unrepeatable to the world. Don't dim that shine just to fit into someone else's idea of normal. Oh no, you need to own it all, from the laugh lines to the life lessons.
Speaker 1:Number two remember it is grace over perfection. And let's talk about grace because, look, life is messy, sheep are messy and single motherhood, oh yes, it is definitely messy. That's next level strength. So when things go sideways and you know they will give yourself some grace, girl, let go of that perfect mom image that's floating around in your head and instead aim for real. Go for the spirit-led and out-of-your-head self. Aim for showing up and aim for loving your kids large and aim for being kind to yourself, even on the tough days, and especially on the days that you miss the mark, because you will.
Speaker 1:So, when you're tempted to pick yourself apart, remember that perfect crown doesn't mean a thing if it's not filled with purpose and some grit. You're not here to be flawless. You're here to be faithful, to love fiercely and to embrace every single moment, crooked or not. That's where the power lies. Your trials, girl. They are your treasures, making your crown your testimony, your messes yeah. Now they become your message. And so here is how we can do this, and so let me share some more truth with you. We shared a lot of truth, but I got some more.
Speaker 1:You don't have to do this alone. One of the best ways to keep that crown right where it belongs is to surround yourself with some women in your royal family who will help fix it when it slips and cheer you on when it's a little off kilter. Find the people who remind you of your worth on the days when you forget it, as they know their worth, who'll laugh with you when things go sideways and who will help you stand tall even when you feel like sitting down. This sisterhood. It is a reminder that we are all in this together, rocking our crowns side by side, linking our shields together. We can all handle a little bit more life, a bit more sass and a lot more love when we got each other's back. So go find your people, whether it's friends, family, church, family or an online community and let them be a part of your journey. You don't have to wear that crown alone.
Speaker 1:Make a solution, not a resolution, in the new year and, if you live in the Tampa Bay area, come to one of our it's a Single Mom Thing classes. Why haven't you been there, girl, and be there with your peeps? For more information and inspiration on that, visit shepherdsvillagecom. Forward slash classes to see what's on deck for the first of the year. Now going forward, here's what I want you to do.
Speaker 1:Every time you catch a glimpse of yourself today, imagine that crown on your head and wear it with all the grace you can muster. Celebrate your style, give yourself some grace and remember to reach out to your royal family, because together we're not just surviving, we are thriving, and we are doing it with some serious crown wearing style, walking forward with your crooked crown. So as I close and as we wrap up today's episode, I want you to take a moment to let this all sink in. You got a crown on your head crooked, tilted and maybe a little wobbly some days, but it's yours and it is perfectly you. You were made to wear it, not because you're flawless, but because you are fierce, faithful and full of purpose. So here's my final thought for you today Don't wait for that crown to just sit right or for your life to look like some ideal version before you step into your purpose.
Speaker 1:Wear that crown proudly, right here, right now. Be bold, be joyful and be confident that every single gem, every little tilt and every sign of wear is a testament to your strength, even if you don't feel it. Today we've talked about embracing your unique style, giving yourself grace. Grace and surrounding yourself with a sisterhood to hold you up when life gets messy. So, as you go back to your day, remember you are a queen who's got god-given value and god-given purpose. Hold that head high, even on the tough days, because that crown on your head is right where it belongs.
Speaker 1:So let's close with a prayer Lord, we thank you for every single mom listening right now, for the strength she shows even when she feels weak, for the grace she gives even when she feels stretched thin, and for the courage she wears each day. Thank you for placing a crown on her head and for loving her through every imperfect moment. Help her to walk forward boldly, with confidence in her worth and joy in her purpose. Amen, alright, my sisters, go out there and rock that crown like nobody's business, and if it's a little crooked, well all better, because a little tilt is just proof of your life lived fully, a heart loved deeply and a soul strengthened by grace. Until next time, keep shining, keep standing tall and keep that crown right where it belongs.
Speaker 1:Have a wonderful week and remember it's a single mom thing and not the single thing that stops you. Thanks for listening to. It's a Single Mom Thing. I hope you enjoyed our time together. If you have more questions on how to have a relationship with Jesus or need prayer, visit us at wwwshepherdsvillagecom. Backslash prayer. For more information and resources, check out our show notes.
